Whether you have been single for a while or newly single, if you are in your 40’s, I have some news for you…it is not easy! At the age of 40, if you have been single for a while, you become very set in your ways. I can remember a day when I felt like I couldn’t live without being in a relationship. Now, it is the total opposite. I have been single for so long that I can’t imagine making as many adjustments as I will need to make to share my life with someone.
If you are newly single, you have the challenge of catching up to the new ways of dating. Dating in your 40’s is much different than dating in your 20’s. Below are a few tips that I have learned along the way:
Always be honest. At this age, there is nothing to hide. By now we are comfortable with who we are (hopefully) and do not need to pretend we are something we are not. Be clear about what you are looking for in a relationship and do not settle for anything less.
Stay enthusiastic and positive. Keep your positive qualities on the forefront. You may not look or feel like you did back in your 20’s but there is so much more substance to us now than ever before. Stay tuned in with your amazing self. Celebrate what you have to offer. Most importantly, have fun!
Do not rush! Take your time. Stay tuned into your needs and get to know and learn of any red flags that may come to light early on. If you are coming out of a long-term relationship or marriage give yourself time to become emotionally ready for a new relationship. Just take dating lightly and enjoy the new adventures. I can assure you there will be some very interesting adventures! Do not be so quick to make judgments either. Give it a little bit of time to get to know someone before being quick to judge.
If you have kids, do not rush into having them meet your new guy, especially if they are younger. A lot can happen and change over the first few months of dating. You may think after a month it has been long enough to introduce the kids but DON’T. I have found that after three or four months will be a good time to start deciding if you will consider bringing your new interest around your children and if you do, keep it light for a while. It is a very fine line and you really need to think of your children first. This will be a bigger adjustment for them than anyone else.
Enjoy the ride. This is a new adventure for you! Live for today and just enjoy the freedom and choices you have.
I am an older single mom, business owner, and blogger. I enjoy connecting with like-minded people and hope to establish some great relationships with other older single moms with young children. Being a parent is a blessing no matter what age you are but being an older single mom, with a younger child, comes with its own unique challenges! Let’s embrace them together.